What Tracking My Teen Taught Me About Trust
I learned a few things about trust when tracking my teen online I’d like to impart to you. I learned things about both about myself and my son, when I employed a phone tracker and social media monitor.
I’ve learned he’s a good kid
We all want to believe our kids are making good choices for themselves. Once I started monitoring his social activity, there were moments I felt disheartened when I’d get notified that he crossed a boundary or said something hurtful. Additionally, there’s also a moment of embarrassment that other parents are seeing the behavior and judging. But, some things you just have to let roll.
Overall, my favorite thing I learned along the way is that he’s actually hearing my advice, and leaning toward the better decisions . . . most of the time. I get reassured often that he’s developing into a kind, responsible young man.
I’ve learned he’s not an adult
Yep, he’s got a long way to go. Immature, snarky, silly, defensive,
I’ve learned text messaging makes us closer
And it isn’t that I’m discouraging face-to-face communication, it’s just that he feels comfortable in the blue or green text message bubbles. I find we communicate more about social things – share jokes, send emojis, discuss fun weekend plans. On the contrast, a lot of our verbal communication is about business – did you do your homework, wake-up, put the phone down, turn off the TV, brush your teeth, why do your armpits still stink after you showered . . . you know the drill.
I’ve learned my job is bigger than it seems
I really just want to make sure he’s safe. You know, that he doesn’t die or make
I originally battled with should I or shouldn’t I monitor his digital social life or use a phone tracker. Now I know it was a good decision and that it isn’t at all about trust. It’s about being a responsible parent – advising where necessary and knowing when to let him learn his lessons. That’s really hard to do when you’re in the dark.
Using a service like Bark gives you just the information you need, instead of information overload, to empower you to use the knowledge for teachable moments and round out all aspects of their lives. Give it a try. I’m relieved I did.