Overview
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky is a raw, emotional take on a coming-of-age story, featuring a quiet, introspective teenage boy named Charlie. Along with the unlikely friends he meets at his new school, he navigates the perils and joys of adolescence. While the book has some deeply moving and important messages about friendship and healing, it also does not shy away from some incredibly heavy themes. Before giving this book to your child to read, here are a few things parents should know.
Harmful Content ❗️
Characters in The Perks of being a Wallflower experience severe trauma and hardship throughout the entire book. Just some include molestation, teen suicide, domestic violence, and more. Additionally characters encounter more expected experiences such as drug and alcohol use and bullying. All topics are handled thoughtfully and not gratuitously, but these themes are likely too mature for young readers and possibly triggering even for older readers.
Language
There is frequent use of adult language, including the F-bomb. It’s mostly what’s to be expected in a high school setting.
Sex
This book has sexual content and themes woven throughout the plot. It’s referenced in both light-hearted and serious contexts. Characters discuss masturbation, performing sexual acts, and understanding their sexual identity. Most notably, the main character struggles to process how he was sexually abused as a child.
Violence
There are some moments of physical violence. It is implied that one character gets physically abused by his father. One fight scene results after a homophobic slur is directed toward Charlie’s friend, and Charlie throws a punch in defense.
Positive Value 💫
While this book can be heavy and heart-wrenching, it also highlights hope and the parts of life that are worth living for, despite the pain. Charlie experiences severe trauma and yet finds joy and belonging in a group of friends he never anticipated making. Perks of Being Wallflower values kindness, empathy, and reaching out for help to trusted friends.
So, should my kid read it?
We would only recommend this for older, more mature readers who can handle these adult topics. If you do allow them to read it, consider pairing it with conversations about how they feel as they read and how to process these themes.
