You’re So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah: A Movie Review for Parents
Updated December 3, 2025
Overview
You’re So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is a coming-of-age story about all the ups and downs of life as a middle schooler. 13-year-old Stacy Friedman is planning her bat mitzvah, and for her, this party is her only chance to be accepted by the popular crowd. When she and her best friend, Lydia, get into a fight over a boy, Stacey finds herself in a mess on what’s supposed to be the most important day of her life.
So, is this movie safe for kids to watch? We made sure to put all the details you need to know right here!
Harmful Content ❗️
The majority of the movie is about the social pressures facing tweens, which sometimes includes bullying, exclusion, and drama between friends. For most of the movie, Stacey is focused on being popular and being liked by her crush. There’s even an example of cyberbullying when Stacey uses an anonymous Instagram gossip account to get back at her friend. It’s nothing out of the ordinary for the typical middle schooler, especially in today’s world.
There is frequent discussion about menstruation, including Stacy’s dad shopping for tampons for Stacey. It’s not talked about crudely or inappropriately. Although there’s one scene where Stacy jumps into a lake, and her pad comes out for others to see. It’s an intentionally awkward, cringeworthy scene, and Stacy is ridiculed as a result.
There is a brief scene of teens drinking alcohol, and one parent who seems to be excessively drinking.
Language
Language is not extreme in this movie, though there are a couple of instances of “sh*t” and “a**.” There are also frequent moments of harsh or bullying language between teens.
Sex
Sexual activity is not shown or discussed in this movie, but there are depictions of crushes and attraction. There is hand-holding and a couple of brief kissing scenes between teenagers.
Violence
The violence in this movie is minimal, mostly consisting of slapstick comedy. One scene includes a minor car accident, and another includes a teen impulsively jumping off a dangerous ledge to impress others. No one gets hurt, but it’s important that kids know not to imitate these things.
Positive Value 💫
Stacey and Lydia both make lots of mistakes and break each other’s trust, but they eventually remember that their friendship is more important than any boy or party. They learn to forgive and not care so much about what others think, especially the popular crowd. Stacey learns to take accountability and own up to her moments of selfishness. Additionally, this movie has lots of culturally Jewish aspects and paints a picture of what it’s like to grow up in a modern Jewish family.
So, should my child watch it?
We’d say this movie is safe for ages 13 and up. It does portray some real experiences of the average middle schooler, but be sure your child is mature enough for some of the themes before allowing them to watch.
